Weddings are a time of joy, whimsical happiness, fun, elegance, and oodles of love. But at times unwanted stress can get in the way. Through my own experience with my beloved and advice from other brides, we found that welcoming these few simple tips, can really help alleviate this unwelcomed stress leading up to your Wedding day.
Besides the three ‘P’s; Patience, Perseverance, and Persistence. There are a few other hints that I can assist you with. I came across something on the web a little while back that got me thinking and inspired to write this blog
Firstly, Meditate. Practicing the art of meditation is an essential part to becoming an enlightened person. It has been proven that people who meditate can become less stressed in their day-to-day activities, this in turn create a healthier you. You may sleep better, your clarity and focus can become more structured, and basically you’ll be in favour of a more positive outlook on life.
My first recommendation in this process is breathe, focus on the breath for a few minutes a day, this will help pace your heart rate to a slow relaxed steady beat. There is no right or wrong just simply enjoy the ride.
As Deepak Chopra says,
“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing isimpossible”
The pressure of a wedding can often remove yourself entirely from your relationship, your focus drifts away each day, and this is less than ideal for the bride and groom to be. So schedule in a date night; grab a movie, dinner or just simply go for a walk and do that old fashioned tradition of holding hands. Fresh air in the lungs will do you both the world of good.
Develop a Mantra…for you
Adopt a Mantra, a daily affirmation to yourself. Say this Mantra every morning when you wake, and last thing before you close your eyes.
“I am peaceful with myself and my decisions.”
“I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.”
“No matter what my circumstances, there is beauty everywhere I turn. I will drink it in and look at the silver lining rather than the dark clouds. I choose the light in my life.”
By being connected with your feelings, your inner being, and spiritual guidance, decision making will become a lot clearer and easier, and the healing properties are limitless.
The Aroma of a Softening Scent
Light a candle or a softening scent. The smell of lavender, jasmine, chamomile, and basil, creates a harmonious and relaxing aroma for your senses. Dabbing these essential oils on your wrist may help shift your mood. Another oil which I came across the other day was Moldavite, this spiritually connected oil can help you discover your inner self. Moldavite will assist in removing any energy blockages in all of the chakras. It can also help with the unconditional love for yourself and for others.
You may think that you can do everything by yourself, as you are the only one that knows how you want your wedding day to unfold. Unfortunately (and fortunately) you will need help. Don’t be afraid to delegate your ideas to family and friends. Simple things can really add up.
Look after YOU
Embrace your exercise routine and get some enjoyment out of it. Take a Pilates class, go for a walk, dance, sing, I can recommend that any physical movement will increase the blood flow to the brain, releasing those endorphins whilst pumping serotonin to your brain.
Write down how you’re feeling, it will help express the emotions which may be bottling up inside. Sit with them, put on your favourite song, hey and you guessed it. Dance!
Doesn’t this sentence remind you so much of the lyrics from the “Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen:
“Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.”
Its Pamper time!
Last but not least, pamper yourself sister! Go to the beauty spa and get a massage, facial, or foot spa. Like meditation, by taking 30 minutes out of your daily routine to only think about the present, will help you maintain a sense of balance.
I understand that we as women (and individuals) are short on time, especially leading up to the big event. However if you do manage to even embrace one of these tips mentioned, I can guarantee that your unwanted stress will ease and lessen.
I would like to leave you with a quote by Dale Carnegie, from his 1936 book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”.
“Everybody in the world is seeking happiness—and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”