Winter is such a wonderful time of year; the fire is charmingly delicious, playfully dancing in my living room, the serene colours that cover my backyard – barren yet gorgeous. Mulled wine, Sunday roasts, family time – really and truly what better time of year could we be in! Apart from the dreadful weather we’ve had of late, winter truly does have a mystical element to it that words simply cannot describe. As I write this blog, I am also in the process of planning a few special weddings for some delightful people I have met, and I am LOVING every minute of it. Writing these ceremonies brings such warmth to my heart. The love I see in my couple’s eyes when we’re discussing their wedding; the lead up, the day, that symbolic moment of giving and receiving the rings, all of this brings happiness to me beyond content!
One of the subjects that we will discuss when writing your ceremony will be your wedding vows; be traditional or your own. If traditional, I can absolutely assist 100%. However if you’re writing your own, here are a few tips which may help alleviate the stress, especially if you’re feeling a little stumped or unsure with how to find the perfect words for your perfect day.
Begin with asking some simple questions about you guys as a couple, I recently found this great article on Huffington Post from Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, she defines some key questions that can really define your relationship. For example:
How did you first meet and what made you fall in love?
What do you love about each other?
What does marriage and getting married mean to you?
What are you dreams as a couple?
What is your story that you want to share?
Taking this trip down memory lane will hopefully spark up those distinctive traits and unique things about you as a couple.
Express your Feelings
Before you start, make sure you remember the magic of your love. Remember everything that made you want to get married in the first place. That butterfly moment that you will remember forever – I for one can still remember the day I meet my husband. This special moment even now gives me a sudden surge of everlasting adulation for the amazing man he is – if I needed to re-live that moment of my vows, I’m pretty sure I could recite that day like it was the back of my hand. (gush gush)
In some ways, think of your vows as a short love letter. Begin with how you meet your soul mate, what you love about each other, and what promises you will give to each other from this day forward. I do suggest having a template handy to ensure you have the right format. A good template which could be of some help is apracticalwedding.com, Maddie Eisenhart, Managing Editor gives an example of both a religious and non-religious vow. But remember, if you’re worried about the length of your vows, I will work with you on this to guarantee that your timing will be impeccable on the day.
Practice your vows together
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to your vows, so if you’re a humorous person throw some comedy in, if you are the no nonsense ‘to the point’ type of person, be upfront and straight to the point. If you want to sing a song, feel free, but remember they are your vows, special and unique to you as a couple.
If you are interested in writing your own vows, have a nosey at some of the following sites, they give you a really good guideline if you’re getting stuck for ideas.
Once again, I am here to assist you as your Wedding Celebrant, so any ideas you would like to run by me over a coffee, perhaps then just let me know.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Love Jude x